This is the story of how I made my first FWB.

After getting my heart broken, I went back to the drawing board and reactivated my dating profile, in search of fresh meat. 😉

One of the first connections I made in this “second wave” was a guy named Dallas. He was funny, friendly, and pleasant to talk to. He’s married and has two young children, which is always a huge bonus for me. We moved over to texting pretty quickly, as is usual for me when I feel a good connection.

We made plans for our first date two days later, and met up for dinner and a walk. At this point in my journey, I was getting a lot sluttier, so I invited him to fool around in my car after our walk. Afterwards, we got ice cream and then said goodnight.

After our date, I felt very solid “friends with benefits” vibes with him. I didn’t have a powerful romantic spark, but I did and still do have feelings of warmth, caring, and affection for him. I have lots of fun doing sexual things with him. I decided tentatively that a FWB would be his role in my life for the foreseeable future. At that time, that meant I could see him at least once per week, since I didn’t have any other regular partners.

We continued to text frequently after that, and I started catching more feelings. Five days after our first date, he had me over at his house and we took our relationship to the next level. After that, my feelings grew more. I started to reconsider my FWB label for him and thought that perhaps he would be my boyfriend after all. I was crushing on him for sure!

We met yet again for a brief date two days after that, and just fooled around in the car. Because we live close to each other, it’s easy for us to meet up more frequently. Unfortunately, scheduling can be a little difficult for us regardless, because he often can’t plan things far ahead of time due to his family’s schedule.  

After our third time meeting, things started to downshift. At first it seemed that perhaps he was losing interest, and the sad part is that I almost expected it at that point, because it was becoming a pattern for guys to only stick around for about three dates. We went from talking a lot every day to barely talking at all, and I started focusing more on my other relationships.

After about a week of that, we finally talked about what was going on. He shared that he was going through a difficult time, and then I understood why he had become distant. We reconnected a little bit after that, and things felt better between us.

Since then, I’ve found other relationships that are bigger priorities for me, and can give me more of what I want and need. Dallas is still a FWB to me, and someone I care about a lot. With my current schedule, I’m able to see him about once a month, and I enjoy the time we have together and our texting in between.

With Dallas, I feel very comfortable and at ease. I don’t have to filter myself or think about how I’m acting, I can just be completely myself. We don’t have to fill every moment with conversation, either—we can just be comfortably silent together, which I think is a somewhat rare thing. We can tease each other and laugh and just enjoy being together.

Not to mention, Dallas is straight-up CUTE AF and I love the look on his face when we’re having fun together. His voice is extremely sexy. He’s so many things that I like, a lot. I hope I’ll be able to keep him around for a long time.