For this post, I have a new Bottom of the Barrel guy to share with everyone. This one is very… confusing, to me.
I’m going to call him Dylan 2 because he has the same real name as Dylan and frankly he doesn’t deserve his own pseudonym. So Dylan 2 connected with me on Feeld and we talked a lot. I went through my screening questions and he read our PDF. Things were going well, and we moved our conversation to text and also started a group text with Romeo. We made plans to meet.
While we were waiting for that day to arrive, our conversation got sparser and sparser. It wasn’t his fault– I was equally quiet, and Romeo was even more so. We had an unfortunate lack of rapport, and nothing to talk about. Still, I didn’t feel that was reason enough to reject him. Since we’d already made plans to meet, we decided to stand by that.
The day came, and in the morning we confirmed our plans for that night. He said he was looking forward to it. We gave him our address. When the time was getting close that night, I texted him to ask him to let us know when he arrived so we could go out and walk him in. He didn’t respond. We waited… and waited. It was fifteen minutes past the time he was supposed to come over when Romeo asked me how long we wait until we decide he’s ghosted us. I said 30 minutes. Well, 30 minutes came and went and he still wasn’t there. He still hadn’t responded to my last message.
And, that was it! The next day, he disconnected from me on Feeld. He never responded or told us what the hell happened. It’s next-level ghosting, y’all. I’m almost impressed.
Dylan 2 is the Bottom of the Barrel connection for this post because he clearly led us on, and for no discernible reason. I have no idea what he was actually looking for, or what he wanted. I have to assume that everything he said was a lie. And just like with Arlo, who also made plans to meet us and then ghosted, I truly don’t understand what the point was.
On the bright side, I wasn’t really excited about him and he just made it easier for us by eliminating himself from our lives.
I already have two more Bottom of the Barrel stories queued up for my next posts. That should tell you something about the quality of men I’m still sifting through.
In other news:
We decided to let go of our relationship with Richard. While we really enjoyed our connection, we weren’t schedule-compatible and that made it impossible to sustain the connection. His response was very kind and gracious, and we will keep fond memories of our time together.
We haven’t heard from Wilbur in weeks, and he stopped answering our messages. He also disconnected from me on Feeld recently. I’m not sure what happened there, but I don’t have time or energy to care.
Dakota is still silently existing somewhere, and we’re still not a part of that existence. He’s too busy, and that is what it is.
Things with Dylan are coming to an end. I have felt him pulling away more and more, even though we saw him again last week. The physical connection was still great, but the emotional disconnection was making it into something that I don’t want–which is a relationship only about sex. I believe that he had good intentions, but unfortunately his circumstances have made having a genuine and healthy poly relationship impossible.
Gerry and Nadine are still going strong. I consider them a permanent part of our lives. We are finding a good balance in terms of how much time we spend together, which has been helpful in reducing the overwhelm that I was dealing with when things became very intense, very quickly.
Kameron continues to be Kameron. He’s still one of the most (if not the most) mature guys I’ve met, and I enjoy talking to him when I can. Unfortunately, he is extremely busy. I can tell he’s got so much on his plate, and even though he tries to message me when he is able to, it’s just not very often. I don’t believe that our relationship will ever be the “boyfriend vibes” thing that I’m looking for, but I also am not in a hurry to cut things off, because I still think he’s awesome and I can enjoy it for what it is.
I saved the best update for last. We met a couple who… well, they are amazing. Where to even start? We’re all attracted to and into each other, which is a miracle in and of itself. But more than that, our rapport is incredible. We went to meet them and were planning to play board games, but we never got to that because we just spent the whole time talking. It’s so natural and easy and fun to talk to them. Fantastic vibes all around! When we started getting spicy at the end of our date, we all got a taste of the sexual chemistry we will be eagerly exploring more of in the near future.
I had even had a new and exciting experience with them. I’m pansexual in principle, but in practice I’m mostly attracted to men. I’ve kissed women and done sexual things with women, but it’s pretty much always been just for shits and giggles. I like making people feel good, and a few times that has included women.
But let me just tell you right now: kissing this woman was a wholly different experience. It was amazing. I genuinely enjoyed it, and I am very excited to do a whole lot more. I enjoyed her husband equally as much, and practically drooled over watching him and Romeo make out. Holy hotness, Batman!
So yeah, everything is mostly shit right now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. The names I am bestowing upon these glorious lights who are hopefully leading us out of the darkness are Alister and Adelyn. Please, for the love… let these ones work out.