So… I have a new girlfriend and her (fake) name is Audrey. 😀
Audrey is quite simply everything I was looking for and more! I found her through some magic of the universe, and I intend to keep her.
She isn’t my only poly relationship right now, but she is one whom I find consuming more of my thoughts and capturing more of my attention. She’s the kind of partner whom I want to find ways to integrate into my life so I can see her more.
With Audrey, I have the whole package. She makes me feel warm and safe and happy. Our backgrounds and the way we think are so similar. There’s no question of whether we have chemistry, and we’re both attracted to each other. We’re still relatively new, but I already know that she’s someone I want in my life for as long as I can have her. That’s why I asked her to be my girlfriend, and I’m so happy she said yes.
When we first met, we sat on the beach and talked until the sun went down and the tide came in. Then we moved to another spot so we could talk more. And since that wasn’t enough, we then went to get dinner before finally saying goodnight. From the first moment, I have felt so comfortable around her– except for a few nervous moments that were just me feeling awkward and wanting her to like me. But overall, everything with her has felt very organic.
My favorite date was an outing she took me on to an aquarium she enjoys. She showed me around and we pet baby sharks and manta rays, laughed at the sea lions wrestling in the water, cooed over the teeny tiny frogs, and browsed the gift shop. It was such a fun date, and I treasured the long day we were able to spend together. But whether we can spend hours hanging out, or only have time for a quick visit, I’m always thankful for the time I get with her.
One of the things I enjoy about my relationship with Audrey is that we’re both new to this. Neither of us really knows how to date a woman, but we’re figuring it out together. It involves a lot of communication, asking questions and being open about where we’re at, and simply spending time getting to know each other.
One of the other things that makes me feel so good with Audrey is how much I can feel her attraction to me, her desire to be near me, and her enjoyment of exploring together. She is quite gorgeous, and my attraction to her only grows as I get to know her more and feel more of her affection. My attraction and sexuality are very empathic, so when I like someone and they’re super into me, it makes me feel even more into them. (This is also helpful in the reverse, as it’s easier for me to shut down a crush when they aren’t reciprocating the feelings. But that’s a whole other topic!)
Audrey has been to my house, met my animals, and met one of my children. We have plans for her to meet Romeo soon, and then the other kids as she feels ready. I’ve been in her car, been to her house, met her animals, and met her husband. These are some of the milestones that make me feel more connected with a new partner. Learning the mundane parts of each other’s lives is important to me, and Audrey is eager to learn about me as much as I am about her.
Another amazing thing is how similar we are in the ways we think and process, and some of our past experiences, and most importantly the way we see and interact with the world. We are just such a great fit in terms of compatibility, and that feels really good.
What else can I say about my lovely girlfriend? She’s kind, smart, funny, responsible and capable. She loves animals and kids. She’s romantic and intentional, and did I mention how warm and safe and treasured she makes me feel? I’m so glad I found this wonderful human and that I have the privilege of getting to know her more and more. I’m so glad I get to call her mine.