Hi, my name is Harper. My pronouns are she/her, and I’m a polyamorous pansexual woman married to a monogamously-oriented pansexual man, with whom I practice Ethical Non-Monogamy. Say what?
Let me break that down for those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about. Pansexual means that we’re attracted to people of any gender. I’m polyamorous by orientation, meaning that my ideal relationship style is to have multiple romantic and sexual partners. My husband is monogamous by orientation, meaning that he would be perfectly content to have no outside romantic or sexual relationships. I identify as poly because I resonate deeply with polyamory and have found it to be an important part of my identity.
On the other hand, my partner was previously poly but after he met me, he found that he preferred to be monogamous. Over the course of our relationship, we’ve explored opening our relationship again, struggled with it, and spent years being monogamous before we landed where we are now, which is exploring ethical non-monogamy as a couple.
Before my current partner, who I call Romeo, I was married to my ex-husband for 10 years. The last six months of my previous marriage was when I began my poly journey. We are now divorced (obviously) but we have a close friendship and positive co-parenting relationship.
This blog is a place for me to share my adventures in love and relationships.