Hi, my name is Harper! My pronouns are she/her, and I’m a polyamorous omnisexual cisgender woman. I practice Ethical Non-Monogamy with multiple partners, in various capacities. And I love it!
I identify as poly because I resonate deeply with polyamory and have found it to be an important part of my identity. Some people practice polyamory because they enjoy the dynamic, or believe in the underlying principles. But I consider myself polyamorous by orientation. For me, a big part of living my best life as my truest self includes having multiple romantic and sexual partners. Me being monogamous would be like a (100%) gay person being in a heterosexual relationship. It would be like cutting off a vital part of myself. Fortunately, I am privileged to be able to live my life openly and without fear. My life, like my love, is abundant and free!
I’m married to a monogamish pansexual cisgender man, who is also my nesting partner and co-parent. As of this writing, my other partners include my long-distance boyfriend Benny, my girlfriend Aubrey, my boyfriend Chase, and a variety of other partners. You can check out this post for the deets! Admittedly, it is quite a lot right now. This probably goes without saying, but I’m very very poly!
This blog is a place for me to share my adventures in love and relationships. I use pseudonyms for everyone I write about, but the stories are 100% real.
Thanks for visiting, and please enjoy!
A little about my polyamory journey:
I was married to my ex-husband Carter for 10 years, and first became ENM (ethically non-monogamous) during the last six months of our marriage. Carter and I divorced amicably; we’re still good friends and have a positive co-parenting relationship.
I have been with my spouse and nesting partner, Romeo, for over four years. We’ve been in love and raising children together since day one, because we both came with kiddos from our previous marriages.
Obviously, Romeo and I were both poly when we met. But after he found me, he discovered that he wanted to have me all to himself. I describe my husband’s relationship orientation as monogamish, because he’s said that he feels he would be happiest to be mostly monogamous, while still enjoying some swapping and threesomes.
Over the course of our relationship, we’ve spent time focused exclusively on each other, explored opening our relationship again, struggled with it, and spent years being monogamous before we began exploring ethical non-monogamy as a couple (only dating together, and generally other couples). After about a year of dating that way, we fully opened up to exploring individual poly relationships once again. That’s where we are now!
I’m so glad that Romeo is supportive of practicing ENM with me, and it makes me happy to see him pursuing outside relationships of his own, as well.