This is a story of perfection.

So… Truly is my boyfriend now! (In case you missed my last post, Truly is the pseudonym I’ve given the new guy I met just over two weeks ago. I immediately had a super amazing feeling about him, but I probably wouldn’t have guessed just how amazing he actually is. I’m honestly so grateful now that Chase let me go, because if he hadn’t then I wouldn’t have found this. And can I just say that it feels really satisfying to receive a picture of your new boyfriend cuddling with your t-shirt, because it smells like you, and that t-shirt just so happens to be the same one that you once gifted to your ex-boyfriend, and ended up unintentionally keeping? It’s a pretty goddamn nice full circle moment, let me tell you. 

I’ve moved pretty fast at times in past relationships, but this one has still managed to take the cake. It took us exactly one week to decide that we were boyfriend and girlfriend and that we loved each other. And guys– it wasn’t even me leading that conversation. He pursued those milestones with me because he wanted to, plain and simple. I have never met anybody who matched my energy in a relationship like he does. I honestly didn’t think a guy like this existed, and yet here he is! 

Quite frankly, I can’t think of anything about him that isn’t perfect for me. He adores my kids and is so good with them. He loves my pets and had zero hesitation about me bringing my not-yet-housetrained puppy to his house for sleepovers. He genuinely likes Romeo, too, and has been wonderfully supportive of us as a couple, as well as me as an individual in a challenging marriage. He has a naturally helpful personality. He’s highly affectionate in both non-sexual and sexual interactions. He’s incredibly communicative and has shown me that he wants to get to know me in every way he can, in the most intentional way he can. He’s playful and adventurous and beautifully embraces his childlike silliness and enthusiasm for life. He texts me often, and generously; yet he never gets impatient when I don’t have time to text him back for hours. He understands my mental health challenges, because he has them too. We share the same values and many of the same beliefs. If I had to sum him up as a partner, I would say that he makes me feel seen, adored, and cherished. And this after only two weeks!

I could go on and on about the many wonderful things about him. One of the best things, though, is that for the first time ever, I get to be in love with a guy whom I have no fear of hurting me. I feel so very safe with Truly, both emotionally and physically (because did I mention he has an MMA background? He’s used fight training as a healthy outlet for his emotions, and yet still has the vibe of someone who would never hurt anyone who didn’t ask for it. He also has a protective streak, which is high-key a major turn-on for me.)  

Truly and I seem to have a remarkably similar approach to love and relationships. We both keep marveling at how we’ve managed to find each other and how neither of us feels insecure in the relationship. Yes, it’s still very new– but legitimately, the first few weeks or months of a new relationship are often the most insecure-feeling for me. Getting to the point of having a label and more importantly having reciprocal love for each other is the scariest part. We are on the same page– or as Truly has said, the same sentence on the same page in the same chapter in the same book. We’ve both been in codependent relationships before and are keeping ourselves and each other accountable to avoid that happening with us. We are both poly to our cores. At risk of sounding like a broken record, I can say with confidence that we feel like a match made in heaven. 

My poly life feels amazingly complete and balanced right now. Last week, Patrick decided to end things with us due to personal life circumstances, which I was bummed about; yet, it was hard to feel too sad when my mind was being consumed (in the best way) with thoughts of Truly. I have a husband, a girlfriend, a (local) boyfriend, and a long-distance boyfriend– as well as a FWB and a comet partner. Finding time for those last two is a big challenge right now, but I’m doing my best to make it work. I feel like for the first time, I have everything I need in my polycule. I’m stupidly happy with my partners, y’all!

There are other big changes coming in my life soon. I can’t help but feel like the universe is working its magic to bring everything together for me, so I can step into a life that finally and truly feels like mine. Over the last five years of my life, I’ve felt a strong affinity for the symbol of the phoenix, and I can feel the next revolution beginning now. I know that the end of my current era will come with its fair share of grief, loss, fear, and anxiety. But I also know that every time I begin again, I get one step closer to being the truest version of myself. And I feel as ready as ever.