This is the story of how I became a sluttier slut.

When I met Brendan, I was well on my way to the sexual empowerment that I now enjoy. My experience with him was an important part of my slutty journey.

Brendan is one of the people who I’ve had the strongest immediate physical attraction to. He’s just straight-up delicious. When we started talking, I liked the way the conversation flowed comfortably and how open and respectful he was when talking about sex.

We ended up talking for longer than usual before meeting, because we live far apart and he has a busy work schedule. By the time we had our first date, we’d been chatting for six days and we’d already gotten very sexual. I was excited to jump into bed with him as soon as possible, quite frankly!

So for our first date, that was basically the plan. We met up for dinner, then fooled around in the car before I brought him back to my house. The sex was fiery, hot, and passionate—but didn’t last as long as I would’ve hoped for. I enjoyed him a lot, but I would have liked to enjoy him for longer.

Afterward, we cuddled and talked for a little while, then I drove him back to where his car was parked. We sat in my car and talked and kissed for a long time before he left to make the drive back home.

Since our first date, which was three weeks ago as of this writing, we have not talked very much at all. It wasn’t an immediate shift, but a gradual one and nothing “happened” to cause it. It seems that he’s just extremely busy and tired with work. When we do talk, it’s affectionate but brief.

I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever get to see Brendan again. If it was up to me, I would—even if our relationship is almost entirely physical, it’s fun for me and I like him a lot!

That being said, it’s possible that he is no longer interested in me for whatever reason, and he’s trying to communicate that without being direct. I’d like to think that’s not the case, but one can never know for sure.

Either way, Brendan was a first for me—the first time I had sex on a first date! And, he may end up being more of a one-night-stand, which would also be a first for me. For the record, that’s not something I look for at all, because emotional connection and relationship building is very important to me. However, as far as sluthood goes, it is kind of nice to have an experience like that under my belt, so to speak.

Casual sex is now part of my journey toward accepting sex as a normal, fun, and healthy part of my life, even in a variety of emotional contexts. Sometimes sex is deeply intimate and emotionally powerful. Other times, it’s just fun and hot. I really like that I can enjoy the different levels and varieties! (Sidenote: I take sexual health and safety very seriously. Testing and protection are mandatory. 😉)